Some people speak better than others, we all know that. This post is about people who find it hard to speak well.
These people find it harder to voice their opinions to others, especially to strangers or people they don't really know. So people often assume that they have nothing to say. Or in other words people assume that they agree with whatever's going on.
It's not to say that others making assumptions are wrong. It is easy for others to conclude that these people have no comments (and generally silence means consent), especially when their facial expressions or body languages show no sign of discontent.
In some situations, others discover (by some means) that these these people are actually against the idea, and so they push the blame to them. Of course it's not others' fault; 'others' didn't know about these people's views. But the way others push the blame onto these people highlights an issue that I think is present and neglected (possibly cause people who find it hard to speak well are the ones facing this, so the issue is rarely raised) in the world.
We all know that most people are born with the ability to speak. But not everyone is born with the ability to speak well and communicate their ideas effectively. It depends on the characters and personalities of people, and subsequently how they were brought up. But the main idea is that some people are not born with the ability to speak well, and for some people even years of training is not the key. Because the 'others' can speak well, it doesn't give 'others' the right or make it right for them to demean these people and claim that it's their own fault for getting what they didn't exactly agree with from the start. Others simply can't blame these people like they're supposed to be born good-speakers.
Sharing a similar experience as the people who find it hard to speak well are people who tend to give in to others' ideas too often even if they disagree. It's not that they find it hard to speak well, it's just that they are more tolerating and accepting.
You know what, I think it's safe to say that the blame-game shouldn't be played here.
For the people who find it hard to speak well, it would be good for them to train themselves. Sad to say, in this fast-paced, ever-growing society, communication is key and face-to-face communication is still the more effective way of communication. If speaking is too difficult, there are other means of presenting ideas, provided by the current advanced technology.
For others, some could try to be less aggressive when collating ideas and feedback from others and ensure that they let others know that they are open to any ideas (that is, if they REALLY are).
For the people who give in to others frequently, just give yourself an opportunity every now and then and give others your opinion (if it isn't a selfish one), because you deserve things happening in your way too.
Man I feel like a guide book writer lol. Don't know why but I felt like saying this hahaha.
